What is Anxiety?
Everyone feels stress or worry from time and time. This level of worry will come and go and tends to by limited in its impact...
“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance!” Oscar Wilde
It is said that one of the kindest things you can do for yourself is accept yourself just the way you are. It is also said...
What is relationship counselling?
A relationship can exist in many shapes and forms and across a lifetime, they will thread us into multiple connections with other people.
...A growing body of evidence supports the ideas presented in this helpful introductory video!
Hashem Al-Ghaili
Your "Second Brain" is in your gut.
Loneliness is a feeling common to many people. If we see it as functional, we will notice that it is there to show us we are too disconnected and encourage us to take the initiative to reach out to others or let them into our world more. Be brave if you’re feeling lonely and reach out to someone. A sense of connection and belonging is good for our mental health!
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Just a little check in on how you are managing your perspective. We “thrive or dive” depending on how we interpret the things around us, so it’s really clever to develop the skill of processing things well. There is pain left and right of all of us and yes if the pain is in us we should stop and care for it, but there is also joy and beauty left and right of us waiting to be noticed, waiting to heal us. If our perspective is linked to pain and frustration it’s very difficult to thrive, but if our perspective is linked to hope and purpose, then pain becomes filtered background noise and our heart can still sing. Try this on .... pop a filter of positivity in so that you can train your brain to focus less on the negatives and allow your mind and heart to focus and rest on the positives. Joy and healing waits in this headspace! Perspective ... what a powerful game changer !
Did you know that being patient is good for our brains? When we are patient we have to grow in character and accept another’s timeline, we have to slow right down to a different pace which encourages a posture of rest and acceptance if done right. Patience is much easier if we fill our life with meaningful things which serve as wonderful healthy distractions while we are waiting. Nurturing our friendships, collecting moments in nature, practicing our faith, giving to our school or family or community, these are all examples of things that build our sense of meaning and connection and increase our ability to be patient, whilst actually having joy and fulfilment along the way!
The long weekend provides us with a lovely opportunity away from our normal routines to practice being present with our loved ones. Being present means being fully focused on the here and now, being fully emerged and engaged in the moment you are sharing with the person you are with, no forward thinking / planning, no past assessment of moments just gone, just being open and unguarded, taking in the moment! These stolen gems of time fill our buckets and feed our sense of meaning and belonging. Enjoy finding moments with the extra day you’ve been given.
Little check in .... how are you going living from an abundance mindset? Scarcity mindsets say “preserve preserve preserve, hide hide hide”. An abundance mindset says “I have more than enough (warmth, love, kindness, grace .. fill in the blanks) to give away and so give it away I will”. Give give give to others and to yourself. Intentionally investing this way is such a liberating way to live. Find a victim for your kindness today (you may choose yourself) and go and have some fun brightening a moment for them !
Did you know that one of your motivational drivers is to play, create and dream? When you need water you will recognise that you are thirsty, when you need food you will recognise that you are hungry and when you need to play, dream or create you may recognise that you feel bored or stuck. Try this .... next time you are feeling frustrated, blasé or spiritless, let your curious mind take you to something that fills you with wonder, and have a play or get creative ... you will be amazed at how good it feels !
Isn’t it true that acceptance can often be so tricky ? Accepting pain or injustice or loss is not easy but if we want good mental health we have to find a way to make space for the realities we face even when uninvited. Hopefully these sore moments (or chapters) pass swiftly but while they remain, mindfulness presents us with the opportunity to practice “radical acceptance”. This doesn’t mean that you endorse the pain, or the loss or the injustice and this type of acceptance doesn’t mean that you approve of the reality you are facing, it just means that you acknowledge that it is what it is, and process the feelings it triggers with compassion and curiosity. Pain is inevitable but lasting suffering really is optional. Take a mindful moment next time you face difficulty to just let it be and see what it feels like to radically accept in the moment !
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